Fatimah (R.A) was the Prophet’s (S.A.W) youngest daughter and he loved her the most. He even said:

”Faatimah is part of my body. Whoever grieves her, grieves me.”

”The Queen of the ladies in Jannat is Faatimah.”

When Fatima reached 15 she was proposed by many from well and responsible families but the Prophet (S.A.W) didn’t respond to their proposals. At that time Ali (R.A) was only 21 said that he doesn’t have much and not much accomplished but still he wanted to express an intention to marry Fatima (R.A) because he was encouraged be the Prophet’s (S.A.W) kindness. When the Prophet (S.A.W) asked what he will give Fatima (R.A) in mahr, Ali (R.A) said he has nothing but armor and his horse. On that Prophet (S.A.W) said:

”A soldier must, of course, have his horse. Go and sell away your armour.”

Ali (R.A) sold his armor and presented 480 Dirham he got for armor to Rasulullah (S.A.W). Bilal was sent be the Prophet (S.A.W.) to get perfumes and a few more things and sent from Uthman, Abu Bakr, Zubayr and Talhah. The Prophet (S.A.W.) recited sermon and gave Fatima (R.A) to Ali (R.A.). Others were witnesses of this marriage and the Prophet gave his daughter Fatima (R.A.) 400 Mithqaal of silver which Ali (R.A.) accepted. And then the Prophet said:

”O Allah, create love and harmony between these two. Bless them and bestow upon them good children.”

Then dates were shared and then Fatima was (R.A.) sent to Ali’s (R.A) home. Later the Prophet (S.A.W.) went to their house and with permission entered asking for water and sprinkled both Ali (R.A.) and Fatima (R.A) and made Dua. After that the Prophet gave his daughter four mattresses, two Yemeni sheets, one silver bracelet, one pillow, blanket, cup, bedstead, hand-grinding mill, leather pitcher and a water skin. With that wedding was solemnized. If this is followed, then the wedding is very simple to fulfil.

For marriage verbal proposal and answer given is enough while engagements are opposite to the Sunnah. Delaying Nikha when eith boy or a girl reached age is wrong. Close associates can be invited for Nikah but without any special preparations to gather people from distant places. The groom can be a few years older than the bride. If the bride’s father is not able to perform Nikah he should solemnize the marriage. Mahr can be given in the limits of what groom has. Those who don’t have means shouldn’t make huge weddings and the respect is not lost if the wedding is small.

Intermingling of the sexes is against Shariah. Mehendi and engagement parties are not according to Islam. Bride shouldn’t be displayed on stage, she dresses for self not for others and she is not a trophy. Engagements where boy places ring on girls fineger is a violation of Quranic law of Hijaab. Engaged couple doesn’t meet or go out together. Gifts shouldn’t become part of some show and given are only necessary items. Demanding any presents for the groom is contrary to the Sunnah.

What word ‘love’ brings to your mind? Love for your child? Love for your parents? Love for your spouse? No matter which love is that, either for spouse, parents or children, all have one thing in common and that is love that Allah placed among us. All people have need to feel love, to experience it, and that is part of human nature.

Before marriage your soul longing to be blessed by love in marriage, to get a relationship filled with affection, attachment and love. All, no matter which religion they belong, Muslims and non-Muslims, have the same need for companionship and love. The question arises, how can one then regarding to love, be distinguished as a believer.

The ultimate love is invisible and ultimate, that is the love that believer feels for Allah. That is how we should approach to love, whether that is love for spouse, parents or a child. That love is actually a way of loving our Creator and through that love we reach the ultimate goal. Only true love can be felt by loving those around you, your family, because that way you love Creator who sent them to you.

How is such love expressed? When a child loves his parents, he will be ready to sacrifice life for them, he will listen all they say and obey them, respecting them and helping them in the old days. That way child places their parents’ wishes above his, and his parents above him, which actually is act of true love. The same way believer feels for Allah, sacrificing for that love. The only way of doing that is following the Prophet (S.A.W.) and obeying Allah.

”He who obeys the Messenger (Muhammad), has indeed obeyed Allah…” [4: 80]

That is why to achieve that one must follow the Qur’an and Sunna, because between one, the other is not complete. Following the Prophet (S.A.W.) believer actually following Allah and only that will lead to the ultimate goal. Love for Allah doesn’t mean one will succeed if he places someone else next to Allah.

”And of mankind are some who take (for worship) others besides Allah as rivals (to Allah). They love them as they love Allah. But those who believe, love Allah more (than anything else)” [2: 165]

If one loves idols as much as he loves Allah then their love towards Allah won’t be equal to love the true believer feeling, because he doesn’t share the love towards Allah with anyone else and his full love is for a Creator. Love for Allah must be higher than any other love within your heart and as any child needs to feel love from his parents, our soul needs to feel love from its Creator. Loving Allah truly actually returns that love which means that all forms of love are beneficial.

Dear brothers, there is very important point, your choice of faith is a choice of time, in million subjects you are free to choose, to refuse or to accept, they may offer you a house to buy, you are free to choose to accept or to refuse, you are free to choose except with faith your choice is a choice of time the evidence is Pharaoh he said;

(Saying: “I am your lord, most high”,)

[Al-Nazyat -24]

and he said;

(Fir’aun (Pharaoh) said: “O chiefs! I know not that you have an ilah (a god) other than me)

[Al-Qassas -38]

This man who claimed that he is God he said when he was drowning:

(Till when drowning overtook him, he said: “I believe that La ilaha illa (Huwa): (none has the right to be worshipped but) He,” in Whom the Children of Israel believe, and I am one of the Muslims (those who submit to Allah’s Will).)

[Younes – 90]